Tips On How to Tell a Guy You Like or love Him

So, you like a guy, do you? Congratulations. By admitting it, you've completed the first step, however, it's much harder to actually tell him. This article will help you through the process of flirting, getting to know him, and telling him how you feel! Be brave!

Part One of Three:
Telling Him

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Find out whether he likes you or not. If he does, go forth with confidence because you have nothing to lose! If he doesn't, don't despair, you have a chance to change his mind. Obviously, if he's seeing someone else, you want to move on, at least for the time being. But if he doesn't yet have feelings for you, there's still plenty of room to be friendly and flirt. Here are some ways to learn about a guy before you approach him:
- Ask around about him. If you're shy, ask a good friend to help find out if he likes you, or is dropping hints. If you know for a fact that he likes you, you can afford to be a little more bold.
- Look for hints he may drop. If a guy likes you, he tends to go out of his way to be with you. (This is not always true, but often a good indicator.) He'll make excuses to sit next to you, be at social events you're at, and may even start to hang out with your friends. Keep an eye out!
- If you catch him staring at you, look at him in the eyes and try to hold contact for a few seconds. If he keeps contact, you know he likes you back. If he turns away, it could mean he likes you and is shy. Beware, however, as there is more than one reason for people to stare at each other. You may have spinach in your teeth!
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Try to start simple conversations with him. In order to tell a guy you like him, you'll need to first have a talking relationship. This just means being on friendly terms, knowing a little about each other, and beginning to develop a more intimate familiarity. This is also a good chance to learn more about a guy - this new information may influence whether you want to tell him you like him or not. Here's some ways to start friendly conversations:
- You may want to start a conversation about something that will flatter him. A great conversation starter is something that makes him feel good about himself. Try:
  - "That was a great football game you played in last Friday. I was in the stands watching with my friend. How long have you been playing?"
  - "You're always at the top of the class in English exams. Can you read every teacher's mind, or just Ms./Mr. [English teacher's name]?"
  - "I like your hair. Did you get a haircut recently?"
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Talk about things you have in common. A great conversation starter is talking about things you can potentially do together (this doesn't necessarily have to be something you share the same interests in - the boy might eventually enjoy it if he is doing it with you). That way you both feel more comfortable.
- Here are just a few conversation-starting examples:
  - "Hey, do you know what the math homework is? I left my planner in class and I don't have it memorized."
  - "Does your older brother go to Gunn? My sister thinks they share a class together."
  - "I noticed you have a Schwinn bike. How do you like it? I was thinking about asking my parents for one this Christmas."
- It may seem obvious, but it bears mentioning: Don't tell him you like him if you're not at least on good speaking terms. If you surprise someone you don't know well by openly revealing your attraction, you could scare him off. At the very least, it will affect the course of any future friendship or courtship.
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Try flirting with him! Stereotypically, guys are bad at realizing that girls are flirting with them. This may have some basis in fact - the internet is full of guides for men that attempt to answer the question, "is she flirting with me?" That doesn't mean that you should flirt more; it just means that you should be aware that he might not flirt back with you, even if he likes you.
- When he's talking to you, twirl your hair as you listen. This action is natural enough for most people not to make anything of it, but if he says something about it, then he's definitely paying attention. This is an easy flirting method to use.
- Ask him to do you a favor. This one is sweet, but it can backfire for a number of reasons: he might not want to do you a favor in front of his friends, or yours, because he's embarrassed. Stick to simple favors:
  - Ask him to hold your backpack in between classes. You can tell him it's really heavy and you want someone strong to help you out.
  - Ask him to do homework with you, even if you don't need much help. This is the perfect excuse to get close to him, and also a good indicator of how patient he is.
  - Above all, try not to be needy - don't try to make him help you move or anything!
- Smile, show him your eyes, and be available. Show him all the things that make you really attractive. Smile your wonderful smile, show him your mesmerizing eyes, and be around when he's around. He'll start to notice you very soon!
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Break the touch barrier. Begin to showhim that you're interested by touching him in safe but suggestive places. Try these on for size:
- Hang or rest on his shoulder. Pretend to be bored and rest your head on his shoulder. Or simply rest your hands on his shoulder. Give him a good look in his eyes if he looks back at you.
- If he teases you, gently "hit" them on the shoulder. Mostly, girls do this when guys are playfully teasing them. You can pretend to be upset or take it with a laugh.
- Find excuses to touch him. If he's got really big hands, just take his hands and say something like "Wow, you're hands are huge; look at how big they are compared to mine!" Fit your hand into his.
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If you're ready to tell him, know that there are several options as to how. If you're feeling brave, simply tell him. You want to catch him away from his friends, and with ample time. Look confident (better yet, be confident.) Start up a regular conversation, and wait until a pause to tell him.
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If you're worried about what he'll say, simply ask him out on a date. This is a good method to try because you're not openly expressing your attraction - just the possibility of future attraction. All you're really asking is whether he wants to go somewhere with you. If he's been responding well to your flirting and conversation, there's no reason why he shouldn't want to! Try something like:
- "Hey, I was going to see that movie on Saturday until my friend bailed on me. Do you wanna go with me?"
- "I've been dying to go to that haunted house on Main street and I haven't found anyone brave enough. Are you game?"
- "My parents and I go to the state fair every year — don't ask, it's a long story — and they were wondering if I wanted to bring along someone from school. Do you want to go?"
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If you'd rather be less direct, you can use notes to tell him. Either place the notes yourself or have one of your trusted friends to help you out.
- Write a cute note saying, "I like you" and stick it in his locker.
- Write "I like you" on a piece of paper, making sure to write who it's for but not who it's from. Ask a few of your friends to pass the note around and "randomly" get it to him. If he reads the note and looks around expectantly, you can either hint that you wrote it or leave him guessing.
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Whatever his answer, have confidence in yourself. If he says yes, be confident that he likes you for who you are and that you're genuinely likable. Don't question his reaction - you might shoot yourself in the foot by saying "really?" if he says he likes you too. You have every reason to be confident.
- If he doesn't like you back, just casually dismiss him by saying something like, "Oh, OK. Don't worry about it." Then, move on! Remember that a "no" response doesn't mean he thinks you're horrible. His motivations may be complicated. Have confidence that histastes don't define you, and that there are plenty of other guys out there who would be lucky to have you. Remember that!
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If you're feeling especially brave, send him a text saying "OMG, (insert his name here) is soooooo cute!!!!!" then send one saying "Soooo sorry that was meant for (insert your friend's name here.)" If he likes you, he'll now have almost no reason not to ask you out